[Italteen3]

Originally Posted by Foodle

If this is the sort of thing you're looking for in relationships, then you're not ready to get married. Nothing wrong with that, but marriage just isn't for you right now.

When you get older, your priorities might change, and you might look for something more from your partner than good sexting/sex/T&A.

Although if you wait too long, you run the risk of being the creepy 37 year-old at the club trying to hook up with the 22 year-old college seniors, which is kind of pathetic and gross

I agree completely with you, but I already know that about myself fortunately. I'm in the midst of trying to change my career and even open up my own business on the side if everything pans out right, so time to invest into a woman is lower on my priority list then bettering myself at the moment.

I've seen that 35+ year old out at the club wayyy too many times. Especially here in NY it's extremely prevalent, not where I want to be in 10 years!

[grimlock]

Originally Posted by Italteen3

Problem is some other guy is willing to be and will get what you won't. Don't be a disrespectful douche, but get it in.

I hear what you're saying 100% Litos. For me I don't think it's about commitment fears, maturity, more there are things I still want to do in life I won't be able to do while married. Plus I just turned 25 too young for the "M" word right now.

Douche too old, good thing creeping as an older guy (30's) is more acceptable over here.
Probably just need to get it out of the system.. then volunteer yourself for incarcerating when you want/got no more game.

[carve]

Originally Posted by veloziROTHTOR

anyone here have 2+ gf's (or know of someone)?

the closest i've personally known was a guy who had a gf and a booty call (they didn't know each other but accepted it)

I only had one relationship since age 17, got divorced not too long ago, and now am out exploring different kinds of relationships with different kinds of women. It's been very fun and I'm learning a lot about myself.

I currently have three girlfirends and they all know I'm seeing three women. I would say I have a good relationship with all three. I like and respect them all, I'm honest with them, but all three are more into me than I am into them. It's kind of cool- they feel competition and therefore try harder. The relationship is not quite as strong as a monogmous relationship, but good none the less. Plus I've only been doing this a few months and have no other few-month-old relationships to compare them to. I have a couple more women I'm interested in, but three is all I have time for so now I have to pick. I like them all so it'll be difficult. I just met a girl who's a dead-ringer for Emma Watson who I had AMAZING chemistry with, so if things are still great with her in a month I might pare down to just her....but probably not.

I spent most of my life married, and I'm really digging the polyamory thing. LOL- consistent sex is MUCH easier now than when I was married. :P It sucks having to use condoms though.

How will you meet the right person if you're committed to the wrong person?

This was my issue. I had no basis for comparisson. I dreaded the idea of being single. Now that I am single (if you can call three smart, fit girlfriends "single") I'm really enjoying it and see that I can have much better compatibility than I had with my ex with lots of different women. I'm going to keep looking until I find one I feel utterly privlidged to be with...one who I'd be very sad to let get away, and then hang onto her.

I'd say a good thing about being in a relationship is that you have someone to rely on when things get tough (e.g. problems with health, money, emotions)